Love isn’t just about a box of chocolates on Valentine’s Day. A gratifying partnership can also make people seem happy and wholesome. But keep in mind that successful partnerships aren’t just about rainbows and butterflies — a well-balanced relationship needs interaction, appreciation, and plenty of good routines from both people. So when dating that very special somebody, avoid stalking their ex on Google+, maintaining feelings suppressed, and dividing the double cheeseburger every night. These (and 17 other) peccadillos could bring in a terrific partnership get a turn for the worse.
Conserve the Spark– Your Action Plan.
- Trying to improve him/her.
News flash: There’s no such thing as a perfect person, so don’t demand improbable changes. him or her to make the bed is one thing, but attempting to drastically change shyness or anxiety is another– and may be overlooking the rooting triggers for those problems to begin with.
- Searching for shortcomings with the fam.
The ‘rents can be harder to manage than your better half. But despite the fact that there’s some contrasting of heads, don’t concentrate on the family’s mistakes. Receiving criticism from family members can create individuals feel depressed and aggressive– which implies some tense vacation dinners. Besides, the situation can’t be much worse than what Gaylord went through.
- Engaging in constant PDA.
Getting it on in public can not only make bystanders uneasy, it may also compensate for a lack of actual communication. Stick to hand-holding and quick embraces, and save the rest for the bed room (or the cellphone?).
- Fighting in public.
As if PDA weren’t bad enough. Arguing in public can humiliate the couple and make everybody around feel unpleasant, too. Talk it out in private, please.
- Avoiding fighting.
Love isn’t all good, all the time. Differences are bound to happen, and arguments can be a healthy aspect of a relationship. Never having conflict may make compromise impossible. Just don’t make fighting an all-day affair.
- Not talking it out.
If something is wrong, the other individual most likely can’t read your mind. When a problem arises, speak up at the right time. One study suggests young couples are less stressed when they talk out their concerns than when they keep their feelings bottled up. And don’t forget to say, “I adore you.” Expressing emotions– positive and negative– can profit that bond.
- Neglecting to forgive.
People make mistakes, and holding on to bitterness may not only hurt a partnership– it could also create undesirable stress and anxiety. Sympathy may be simpler to give if we realize it will benefit our health and wellness.
- Timing conversations poorly.
Conversations about important concerns, like relationship expectations and financial blunders, all have their time and place. Don’t bring up serious topics when someone’s stressed, like at the end of the workday or right before hosting a party. Set up a time to talk when both people are relaxed.
- Keeping score.
Sure, partnerships should be about give and take, but don’t keep track of every little detail (For example: I paid for the last six dinners, and you only paid for five!). It can trigger unnecessary tension.
- Being melodramatic.
No relationship is perfect. So don’t create unnecessary drama in every scenario. If a mate forgets to take out the garbage, there’s no need for a scene. Take a few breaths and address the problem calmly.
When two people want to make it work, trust is key. Have confidence in your mate and respect their privacy: Don’t snoop through texts, emails, or bedroom drawers. (Definitely don’t use this!).
- Allowing jealousy to take over.
Doubting your partner may be a symptom of a larger problem: relationship insecurity. And ladies who feel insecure in their partnerships may be at greater risk for health and wellness problems like a weakened immune system. Some advice for reducing envy, at least temporarily? Stay off Facebook and other social networking sites.
- Letting go.
At times when significants other feel too secure with each other, they end up putting on a few pounds, possibly because they’re less physically active. Attempt being a power couple to stay both happy and healthy.
- Constantly comparing.
Forget the ex and stop comparing a current partner with an individual from the past. This could lead to unrealistic expectations.
- Doing every thing together.
Everyone needs some alone time (yep, even hopelessly devoted couples). Solitude may even enhance relationships, making time together more valuable.
Little white lies can add up and ruin a relationship that should be built on honesty. There is wiggle room, of course: “Sweetie, that homemade dinner tasted great …”.
- Not being honest with yourself.
Don’t just be honest with a companion. Stay actual about what you need in order to stay satisfied. Is a long distance partnership really worth the work? Is it okay that they’re working all the time?
- Lacking self-confidence.
Not feeling confident in a partnership can really do some damage: Low self-esteem is at times linked to low sex drive, which could make things less heated in the bedroom. Getting active, setting goals, and even smiling can improve self-confidence. But don’t forget that an unhealthy relationship can actually create low-self esteem, so steer clear of someone who makes you feel less than great.
- Forgetting why you’re in it.
Remember to ask yourself why you two are dating, and what you want out of it. Does a partner want to put a ring on it while you want to remain casual? Being with someone for the wrong reasons is one slippery slope!
- Taking him or her for granted.
Always remember why you really love that significant someone. Showing gratitude and paying attention to that good person by your side will only make the relationship stronger.