- DON’T KISS HIS ASS.
Guys are wired to desire what they can’t have so make him beg to be your boyfriend, at least in the start. So don’t serve yourself up on a silver platter by texting him all the time and showering him with love. That’s what you want from a guy but it’s not what a guy desires from you– guys need to feel like you’re a little out of reach in order to totally appreciate you. They’re dismissive of things (e.g. ladies) who come too easily. So, don’t be the one who does the chasing– let him chase you and earn you. You may not like it but it’s the TRUTH– it’s just evolutionary biology. All that aside, you need to make him defend you since YOU think you’re worth it. Aren’t you? If you act like you’re a prize, he’s more likely to treat you like one.
- REMEMBER THAT HE’S IRRELEVANT UNTIL HE MAKES HIMSELF RELEVANT.
Until a guy earns your attention, you should continue keeping your alternatives open and focusing on your life, not on him. You must literally make him beg to be your boyfriend. No obsessing– for all you know, this man might turn out to be a loser, a loser or simply a bad fit. Instead of picking child names, set about your service up until he behaves in a manner that makes you wish to stop your business and pay attention. Stick to this concept and not only will you be disappointed a lot less typically, you’ll discover the man you’re trying to find far more rapidly.
- TRAIN HIM TO GIVE YOU WHAT YOU NEED.
If a man texts you after days of silence, don’t jump to respond. Instead, neglect him and his half-assedness. If he texts you again, offer him another shot and see how it goes. If you adhere to this principle and reward him for great habits and penalize him for bad habits, he’ll see you as more desirable. Why? Due to the fact that it’s an indication of weak point and desperation to opt for garbage, and an indication of self-confidence and hotness to expect to be dealt with like a concern. So do not opt for scraps and crumbs. Demand the best and get the best, just like Oprah always stated.
- LEARN TO THRIVE IN UNCERTAINTY.
Among the reasons dating is so tough is that you never ever know what’s going to occur. You essentially need to put yourself out there and make yourself susceptible with no assurance that you’ll get what you desire. However that’s love– you have to get comfy with being unpleasant and letting things unfold naturally. So if you’re in the early stages of seeing somebody and things appear to be moving forward, let them be … Don’t put undue pressure on the relationship by asking where it’s going. Uncertainty really produces romantic stress, which is an excellent thing, not to point out that the man simply might not be ready for the talk (which is okay, btw, due to the fact that men often move slower than we do). Bottom line: Either things are progressing well– listen to your gut on this– in which case you do not need to ask, or something is making you uneasy, in which case you should return and check out # 1 and 2, and 3.
- TEXT LIKE YOU’RE BUSY.
Guys are succinct animals so when you text him frequently or send rambly texts, there’s a great chance you’re making him less interested. So do yourself a favor: when you’re very first getting to know a guy, keep it quick– edit, edit, edit. Envision how you would text if you were incredibly hectic– you ‘d keep it quick, right?– and ask yourself if the text you’re about to send appear like that, or looks like you have way too much time on your hands, all of which you’ve been investing consuming over him. If it’s the former, terrific. If it’s the latter, erase and begin once again.
- LOVE YOURSELF.
There’s absolutely nothing hotter than a confident, independent woman with a life, self-respect, and choices. So don’t be the insecure, clingy woman whose entire life focuses on whatever guy she’s into, dropping everything for him the 2nd he wants to hang out. That’s not cute. No matter what you appear like or what your shortcomings are, focus on your strengths and respect yourself. If you’re not being good to yourself, no one else will either.